Creating A Better Life

At the end of 2016 my life was in shambles. It was the holiday season and I was suddenly facing eviction, my beloved Benz lease was ending, and I was unemployed. Everything I’d worked for seemed to be slipping away.

Even though I fully believed in the Law of Attraction and the power of positive energy, these compounding challenges pushed me to my breaking point. One night I took a drive to just calm my nerves. As I drove around aimlessly, frustration and anger bubbled up, and in a moment of despair, I yelled out into the universe, Why is this all happening?! I was truly questioning why positivity seemed to fail me when I needed it most.

Then, while waiting at a stoplight something extraordinary happened. A voice—not mine, but one that brought comfort and calm—responded:

"What if what I have for you is better than you could have imagined?"

In that moment, everything shifted. Feeling this universal support, I realized I wasn’t a victim of my circumstances; that I had the power to create a better reality. This realization made me embrace what I now call the Three Pillars of Deliberate Creation: Focus, Mood, and Expectation. These principles weren’t just concepts—they became the actionable steps that transformed my life.

Focus: Shifting Attention to Solutions

In the depths of my despair, I realized my attention was completely fixated on everything going wrong. I thought I was carrying myself with positivity, but in reality, I was just faking it, hoping things would somehow improve. Beneath the surface, I was overwhelmed by shame, consumed by thoughts of everything I lacked: money, a stable job, and a home. I knew that if I wanted to change my situation, I had to shift my focus. Instead of dwelling on the problems, I made the choice to start focusing on solutions.

The very next day, the universe began to deliver in ways that felt almost magical. I felt a strong pull to visit a nearby dealership, and there it was—the perfect car! Just like my beloved Benz, but with a fresh new color and upgraded interior that felt like it was made just for me. And the best part? It was mine for half the price! As if that weren’t enough, I soon discovered a stunning lakefront apartment—affordable, inviting, and so perfectly aligned with my vision it felt like it had been waiting for me. These “miracles” flowed into my life the moment I shifted from a mindset of lack to one of belief in endless possibilities. By embracing confidence and deciding I could make it happen, I set the wheels of manifestation in motion.

By getting crystal clear on what I truly wanted—a home, reliable transportation, and a sense of stability—I set my thoughts into motion, aligning them with tangible outcomes. This clarity opened the door for the right people and opportunities to flow into my life. Focus became the spark that ignited a wave of manifesting positivity."

Mood: Fueling Creation With Positive Emotions

During this time, I learned that while it was natural to feel fear and frustration, I couldn’t dwell there. Negative emotions like hopelessness were dragging me deeper into despair. I had to deliberately cultivate feelings of joy, hope, and anticipation—no matter how small those moments felt at first.

One day, I imagined what it would feel like to have my life back on track. I pictured myself driving a car I loved, waking up in a peaceful home, and working a job that brought me fulfillment. Those emotions—joy, confidence, and excitement—became my fuel. Even before my external circumstances changed, my inner world started to transform.

When I shifted my mood, things began to align. A job opportunity surfaced, and within weeks, I secured a full-time position at a prestigious company. Positive emotions became a magnet for opportunities because they kept me motivated and in alignment with what I wanted.

Expectation: Trusting That It’s Already Yours

The hardest lesson I had to learn was to trust the process. At my lowest point, I was overwhelmed by doubt. I wanted to control every outcome, but I realized that holding onto fear and micromanaging the “how” wasn’t helping.

When I heard the voice that asked, “What if what I have for you is better than you could have imagined?” I chose to believe it. I leaned into the idea that the things I wanted—a home, a car, and a job—were already on their way.

This shift in expectation was pivotal. Instead of questioning if things would work out, I started acting as if they already had a deep belief in my support from the universe formed. I applied for jobs with confidence, trusting that the right one would find me. I visited apartments believing I’d find one I loved. That belief—combined with action—bridged the gap between my intentions and reality.